The older I become I find what truly matters…and what I really want for my birthday.
If you watch people you can see what they value. For many you would have to conclude that there is a constant need for the new, better, and more…things. The insatiable desire to prove oneself through accumulation. Success is making sure my mountain of stuff is the biggest, or at least as big as the Jones’. “If my house doesn’t get bigger, what will people think”? “If I can’t have a new car, what does that say about my success.”?
I’ve lived long enough today (oh yeah its my 44th birthday) to begin to see how empty this is…maybe not today, maybe not for a long time. But one day when I get “old” my values will surely change. That new car that I can’t drive will mean so little. That 4000sq ft house where I can’t climb the stairs just won’t matter. And if I have spent my life amassing the more, I will sit in a cold room full of what I treasured and find emptiness all around.
Too many people forget to buy stock in life’s most precious commodity – people…relationships. Instead we trade people in like we trade in cars, about every two years we are on to the next person. Leaving behind us a wake of unforgiveness and broken relationships. “Well you don’t know what they did to me. I can’t forgive that”. But one day you will wish you had.
Beyonce is right, “I can have another you in a minute”. The difference is that I want to keep them all. So I will choose to love and rejoice, and in the end maybe an “enemy” will come to say, “Thanks for loving me, even when I didn’t love you”.
I want to be that guy who won’t leave you. And even if you leave me, I want you to know that I’ll always be waiting.
So as I sit here at 44 I am evaluating life and success by a different standard – How many people?
How many lives have I purchased with the currency of love?
How many debts have I written off in forgiveness?
How many service calls will be available because way back when I was there?
How many customers will be in my shop when it is time to close this store?
How many hands will hold my hand when I’m letting go?
This is where my treasure is…Happy Birthday to Me.

